Monthly Archives: June 2012

Love to Hate You

I love you. I hate you. I love you. I hate you. But why?

I have this theory: You can only truly hate someone you love. Because, as Eli Wiesel said, “The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.”  So if you take all that energy to hate someone, you must love them…or maybe you loved them at some point in your life.  Think about it, hate is one of the strongest emotions you have ever felt, isn’t it?  And what about love?  Love is all consuming.  You can spend all day thinking about just how much you love someone, and then by the end of the day you feel like you need to roll in mud, just to offset all the warm fuzzies that you have been leaving in your wake.

So now let’s look at hate.  Anybody who has ever been in any type of relationship (friend or lover) knows that icky Mr. Hate can jump out at you just as easily as love can.  One minute they are your favorite person and the next…visions of birds poking their eyes out populate your imagination.  (Okay, maybe nothing that serious, but I am trying to make a point here!)  And yet you can be back to loving them as soon as five minutes later; maybe it usually takes longer than that, but, usually, in the end, rainbows and sunshine once again define your relationship.

Don’t get me wrong though.  I know that you feel like you can “hate” someone you haven’t loved, but I think that is different.  People always say you shouldn’t “hate” anybody.  So, as I child I coined the term “greatly dislike with a passion.”  And THAT is what I think you feel for people you don’t love.  A passionate dislike.  A dislike so great you could build monuments to it.  I’m talking the Atlantis of passionate dislike monuments here, people.

But why? I understand loving someone, and obviously hating them, but, why does passionate dislike even need to exist. Love and hate go hand in hand, so, in my eyes, if you hate someone, at some point you were emitting love into the world (insert warm fuzzies) so it offsets the sunshine you are sucking out of the world when you decide to put hate out there.

I’m not saying I don’t stoop to greatly disliking anybody with a passion, of course I do!  But again, why?  Why spend any time on an emotion that does nothing for you, your mental health, your emotional capacity, or the people around you. You know what I mean, if you are unhappy, those around you generally absorb your mood and spit it back out at you, thus propelling the flow of uneasiness in the world. Let’s put an end to this, shall we?  The next time you find yourself glaring at that person in the parking lot who totally stole your spot!, just remember, it is pointless.  They won’t know you are angry at them (which is half the fun, isn’t it?) and all you will do is stir yourself into a frenzy that will undoubtedly only be calmed by food, alcohol, or a new pair of shoes.  None of which leave our bank accounts in a good mood.

At this point you may be asking, what’s your point?  Simply this, it is okay to hate, as long as you know, in the end there is love to be had – and let’s be honest, there is ALWAYS love to be had.

I don’t always love you. Sometimes I hate you.

I…I love to hate you, man.  Sorry.



(From my blog:, 09.28.10)

Politics and religion. But mostly politics. Just a hint of religion.

Normally I want to read about neither of these (at least not as a recreational activity), so it may seem a bit odd that I picked up Boomsday with the actual intent of reading it. Shocking, I know. But, the thing is, the cover is just so inviting! I was walking past it in the bookstore and the bright blue and yellow screamed at me to pick it up. At first it looked pretty boring, but then I noticed that the author was said to have also written Thank You For Smoking (I will admit, I didn’t even know that was a book before it was a movie) so, I decided to take home Christopher Buckley’s book – Boomsday!! Really. Good. Choice.

Just think of this as reading The Constitution with Ad Libs. Okay…that is probably not at all what it’s like, but I felt like I was being educated on some of the goings-on of our public office holders while also being entertained by such outbursts as, “Instead of staring at a computer screen all night and railing against the government and shrieking that the sky is falling, you should be out exchanging bodily fluids and viruses with the rest of your generation” (taken from page 8, spoken by Terry Tucker).

So, what’s this book about? Basically it is a political satire – specifically about the Social Security “crisis” that we are facing. The main character, Cassandra Devine urges her peers via a political blog she spends most nights pouring her thoughts and opinions into, to rise up against the Baby Boomers who are cashing in on the social security that they will end up paying for. Why should her generation have to pay the bill when they weren’t the ones who made the mess, she asks. This triggers a few people to take to heart what she has said and lead a small revolt – catapulting her name and face up to the top of the most interesting people list and, eventually, landing her on the cover of Time magazine.

Oh, did I mention that she also recommends that people voluntarily “transition” (in laymen’s terms: commit suicide) at the age of 65 to allow a break in Social Security spending and not forcing the new generation to pay the bill the Boomers ran up. Add that to the fact that Cassandra soon becomes the girlfriend of a Senator who eventually decides to run for President, with the Transitioning Bill at the forefront of his platform.

Tell me you don’t wanna read this now.

– S

Sloppy Firsts

(From my blog, 07.22.10)

Megan McCafferty does an amazing job at bringing to light all the insecurities and inner musings of teenage girls the world over in Sloppy Firsts.  Popularity, boys, school, SAT, college, family, boys, friends, gossip, and, did I mention boys?  As you read through each journal entry you can’t help but think that these are your journal entries from when you were in high school (and, let’s be honest, even from now).

Jessica Darling begins to document her life the year her best friend, Hope, moves away with her family due to a tragedy in the family.  Without Hope, Jessica is forced to become closer with the other girls in her clique despite the efforts she goes to to keep distant from them.  Throw in some unwanted (or, maybe not so unwanted?) attention from a boy Jessica barely knows and you yourself are thrown back into your high school experience.  As you are reading you begin to feel a part of everything that is going on and you begin to see Jessica, Hope, and the other characters as your personal friends.  When you put the book down you begin to feel withdrawal from your new friends and you are forced to pick it back up and keep reading.

McCafferty doesn’t just skim the superficial surface of high school life – she goes deeper and really gets to the heart of the problems girls go through, not just in school, but in life.  There isn’t one character that you can’t relate to and, a lot of the time, you find yourself shouting “Yes!” when you come across something you have thought or said.  What is best about this book is that it’s only one in a series.  I have read three of them already and, from high school, to college I have been able to relate the whole way and I am eager for more.

Do yourself a favor, pick it up the next time you’re at the bookstore.  Maybe it’s not a classic, but you will definitely feel good after reading the Jessica Darling books.  You’ll laugh, maybe cry, and you will without a doubt fall in love with the characters and yourself in the process.



City of Thieves

(From my blog:, 03.08.10)

In case you can’t already tell, I spend a good amount of time perusing bookstores so I’m sure it comes as no surprise that this book is another that I found by accident. The minute I saw the book I knew I wanted it.  Just by looking at the cover I was intrigued; I hadn’t even read the summary and it had become a must read.  At the time I had several unread books on my shelf and no money so I made a mental note about it and went on my way.  Several months and books later I found it on the 50% off table – I’m a girl, I can’t resist a sale, so I walked out of the store with City of Thieves and six other books.  Happy with my new purchases and feeling slightly guilty at the hundred dollars that would now notbe going toward my rent, I found a comfy chair next to one of the large picture windows in the store and cracked open my book, settling down for a nice long read.

If you are not interested in history, war, or Russia then you will not like this book – that much I can tell you.  To be completely honest with you I thought this was a very dry read at times, but at others I couldn’t put the damn thing down!  The basic plot of the story is about Lev and Kolya, two Russian citizens who are sent on a crazy mission for a General that has them trudging across the snow covered country looking for a dozen eggs all while there is a war raging against them by the Germans.  As you can imagine they encounter several difficulties, including almost being killed by the Germans several times in between the times that they almost die from exposure.

I would definitely say this is a must read.  Even though at times I was wondering when it would end, I already want to read it again.  It ropes you in and doesn’t let you go.  Read it and comment back.  I’d like to know what ya’ll think.


Her Fearful Symmetry

(From my blog:, 03.05.10)

Generally if I like one book by an author it is pretty congruent to assume that I will like another book by the same author.  So, after reading The Time Traveler’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger I could not wait until she wrote another book.  When Her Fearful Symmetry finally came out I immediately put it on my “must read” list where it remained until I finally had it in my possession.  I have just finished it and must admit that I am terribly disappointed.  After reading The Time Travelers Wife I expected…well, to be honest I don’t know exactly what I expected but it definitely was not this.

I won’t give away any serious plot particulars but I will give an overview of what the book is about.  Two sisters and twins, Elspeth and Edie, were estranged at a young age for reasons that nobody else in the family were privy to.  Elspeth dies and leaves her flat (in London) to Edie’s two daughters (also twins) and stipulates that after they turn 21 they must live in the flat for a year before they are allowed to consider selling it.  The will also states that if Edie or her husband enter the flat then everything Elspeth owns will then go to her lover, Robert, and the twins will no longer get her money or the ability to live in the flat.  So the twins, Valentina and Julia, move to London a year after Elspeth dies (which is a week after their 21st birthday) and, upon moving in, begin to realize that even they live alone in the flat – they aren’t really alone because Elspeth’s ghost is haunting them.

I definitely would not have expected a ghost story from the author of The Time Traveler’s Wife but I figured if she could make time travel seem possible and romantic maybe ghosts could be too.  Unfortunately this did not happen.  The entire story is full of twists and turns that confuse you and cause you to set the book down every few pages and steady yourself from dizziness.  I desperately wanted to love this book.  After only a few chapters I was bored but I made myself read the whole thing believing that I would find out that I got better at the end.  I was wrong.  It didn’t.  By the end of the book I was wondering why it ended there.  There should have been more.  Did she forget to write a chapter?  Was there a sequel coming?  It ended so abruptly with so much unfinished business that it leaves the reader wondering why anybody would do that.

Although, after all I have said, I must admit that it is not a bad book.  In fact to many it is probably a great book.  To me though, it is average.  Well written? Yes.  Good story?  Definitely.  Good ending?  Um…that would be a definite no!  Read it and tell me what you think.  Agree or disagree?


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